Love, Tea, and Tiny Compromises

Posted September 2Sep 2

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Why Relationships Aren’t About Perfect People, Just Perfectly Weird Adjustments

So, I recently hit a life-size “duh” moment: we all have quirks. Some of us are hot-tempered fireballs, some of us are quiet as ninja cats, and some of us… well, we just overthink which way to hang the toilet paper. And yet, somehow, society expects us to magically fit these jagged personalities into a “happy, healthy relationship.”

Newsflash: that’s not how it works.

Relationships aren’t about finding a flawless human (spoiler: they don’t exist). They’re about spotting the quirks you can tolerate — and occasionally, learning to tolerate yourself too.

Here’s the real trick: compromise. If your partner loses their cool, maybe you stay calm. If they prefer tea over coffee, maybe you shut up during their 3 PM “tea ceremony.” And vice versa. But — and here’s the kicker — it can’t just be one person doing all the yoga-level emotional stretching. Both people need to bend, twist, and sometimes fall flat on their faces.

The fun part? Change works best when it’s self-motivated. If you start adjusting because you want to, not because you have to, it actually sticks. Otherwise, it’s like forcing kale into a chocolate cake — nobody’s happy, and it tastes weird.

Nothing in life is static, not even our personalities. We’re always changing, evolving, and occasionally realizing we hate that one thing we used to love. The real question is: for whom are we willing to change? That little “whom” is where love lives — between the tea-drinkers, movie-bingers, and occasional hotheads.

In short: relationships are messy, imperfect, occasionally hilarious — and exactly what makes them worth it.

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This post was previously published on medium.com.