Posted September 1Sep 1 You know them. You follow them. And you’ve probably never questioned why. They’re not written down. No one teaches them. Yet somehow, we all seem to know. Little pieces of social choreography that keep our everyday life moving — quietly, invisibly. Here are a few you’ve probably followed without even noticing. 1. The ‘Don’t Sit Here’ Seat Rule Every bus, train, or waiting room has that seat. No spills, no “Out of Order” sign. It’s just… off-limits. Maybe it’s too close to someone else. Maybe it’s by the squeaky door. We’ll never know — but we all stay away. … 2. The One-Elevator-Button Pact Someone’s already pressed the button. You saw them do it. And yet… your hand still goes up, tapping it again. Not because you don’t trust them, but because this is the way. … 3. The Restaurant Bathroom Map Menus in hand, drinks on the way — and someone always leans in to ask, “Where’s the bathroom?” It’s never urgent, yet it’s always the first mystery that must be solved before the food arrives. … 4. The Door Hold Distance Rule If they’re within the acceptable distance, we’ll hold the door without hesitation. Too far away, and we’ll suddenly find something fascinating to look at, pretending we never noticed them. The math of kindness meets the physics of convenience. 5. The Grocery Store Dance You turn into the aisle at the same time as someone coming from the other side. You both swerve left, then right, then left again — a silent waltz in slow motion. Eventually, you laugh and say, “Go ahead,” as if that makes you both less awkward. … 6. The Universal Phone Face Bus stop. Elevator. Long queue. We’ll pull out our phone and stare at it like it’s revealing state secrets — not because there’s something urgent, but because it’s the perfect invisibility cloak. … We never agreed to these rules. We never sat in a room and learned them. But they exist — tiny, unspoken signals that make the world feel less like a crowd of strangers and more like a community in disguise. Maybe that’s what keeps us connected: not just the big things we share, but the little ones we never have to explain. — This post was previously published on medium.com. Love relationships? We promise to have a good one with your inbox. Subcribe to get 3x weekly dating and relationship advice. Did you know? We have 8 publications on Medium. Join us there! Hello, Love (relationships) Change Becomes You (Advice) A Parent is Born (Parenting) Equality Includes You (Social Justice) Greener Together (Environment) Shelter Me (Wellness) Modern Identities (Gender, etc.) Co-Existence (World) *** – Photo credit: Tatiana Rodriguez On Unsplash The post The Unwritten Rules Everyone Follows Without Question appeared first on The Good Men Project. View the full article
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