If You Want Your Relationship to Last, Accept This First

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Being with someone you love and care about is one of the best feelings you can experience.

It’s normal to want to be loved and be with a person who makes you feel valued and appreciated.

But there’s a lot that often goes unsaid about being in a relationship, even in the best ones.

There are many things you need to accept if you want your relationship to work, aside from being with a person who respects and trusts you.

Because being in a long-term relationship with the right person can be life-changing, it’s important to understand the challenges that come with it.

Here are 4 things you need to accept if you want your relationship to work

1. You won’t agree on everything

Sometimes, people crave closure, but it doesn’t always exist.

You might want to resolve a disagreement or continually explain to your partner why you feel a certain way, but when all is said and done, you still may not agree on everything.

In fact, there might be many things you don’t agree on.

But it doesn’t mean your relationship is meant to fail, it just means you each have different perspectives and life experiences, some of which may be shared beliefs, while in other ways you may not see eye to eye.

2. Building a strong relationship takes effort and diligence

Anything you build that is solid with someone else will take time and effort. But over time, it’s easy to take your partner for granted.

Being with one another on a daily basis, and adding in other dynamics of career and family, can create some challenges, even with the strongest couple.

But one of the important things you need to accept if you want your relationship to work is that, well… relationships require work.

Build up your relationship daily with goodwill and good deeds toward your partner.

It’s much tougher for a relationship with a strong foundation to falter versus one with a weak one.

3. Your relationship will get boring at times

Relationships go through many phases: the romantic phase, when things are exciting, new, and fun; but then there is the cooling off phase, where we get very comfortable with our partners.

It’s when you fall into predictable patterns and habits. And with predictability and stability, it’s natural for things to cool off and become somewhat dull.

But when a relationship becomes boring, it signals that you and your partner are in a good place.

Boredom in a relationship indicates it’s healthy. Boring doesn’t last forever, so continue to infuse some spontaneous activities and engagements with one another to keep things interesting.

4. Vulnerability takes your relationship to a different level

When you love someone and they love you, they are willing to love all parts of you.

Every part of you may not be pretty, but part of vulnerability and acceptance is being able to look past the not-so-pretty aspects of someone and focus on all of the good things they have to offer.

And this is why vulnerability is crucial, making it one of the things you need to accept if you want your relationship to work.

Vulnerability fosters deeper connections, promotes open communication, and encourages self-acceptance.

A 2019 study found that it leads to increased intimacy and a more authentic expression of self within the relationship.”

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This post was previously published on medium.com.