Rediscovering Energetic Attraction in Love

Posted Sunday at 08:00 AM3 days

She walked in under early sun, linen warmed by coffee steam drifting. He was at the table, watching her with the divorce letter in hand. Final. Release.

She had done it all: the business, the children, the love, the logistics. She carried both poles until she could carry no more. Strong, then tired. Hollow.

He had softened. Purpose drained away. Without direction, the marriage wobbled. His absence wasn’t coldness.
It was erosion.
Her spark lifted off.
Polarity vanished.
Silence followed.
Heavy and complete.

Now imagine we’re sitting across from one another, cups clinking in the hush, because that moment, it’s not uncommon. It’s cultural. We’ve traded energetic contrast for sameness. Polarity flattens out. Feminine takes over both sides, masculine fades. And love loses charge.

In many modern relationships, empowerment becomes exhaustion, strength becomes isolation. When men lose purpose, Deida’s words echo:

“When a man is unaligned with his masculine purpose, he becomes a burden to the world and a pain to his woman.”

That simple energy shift (purpose unaligned) saps intimacy. Without masculine clarity, feminine energy stretches into emptiness. Without feminine softness, masculine direction exists but doesn’t resonate. The charge between fades and with it, connection.

And there’s a deeper force at play. Like Krishna teaches in the Gita:

“For one who has conquered the mind, the mind is a friend, but to one who has failed, it remains his greatest enemy.”

A mind left unchecked fills with craving, fear, resistance and fights itself. In relationships, we project: we push away tension, or blame, or demand more control. Desire drains into noise. Without inner order, polarity can’t hold because we can’t hold ourselves.

Let’s talk about parenting, growth, children: polarity is not theory. It’s what shapes identity.

A mother who sets loving boundaries and nurtures truth teaches her daughter what strength looks like. A father who leads with presence and emotional clarity teaches his son what balance feels like. Without contrast (without polarity) children internalize confusion. They model neutrality instead of energy. They hesitate in touch, in purpose, in trust.

Culture applauds sameness. Everyone should be equal, and they are. but polarity doesn’t stop, it submits. Attraction withers. Marriage drops in ranking. Gender confusion spreads. Kids search for identity without poles to lean into. Purpose drifts.

But polarity is simply magnetic interplay, it’s not archaic. It’s alive and tangible.

She remains soft, open, creative.

He steps forward, decisive, protective.

She trusts. He holds.

This dance creates charge. Movement. Attraction.

When polarity returns, the ordinary becomes electric. Everyday language becomes poetry. The body remembers its longing. Intimacy hums again.

This is not about returning to stereotypes or tradition for tradition’s sake. It’s about energy. Living in your nature while honoring the other. Not suppression, but flow. This is alive, dynamic, sacred, but it can crumble if ignored.

From years of walking with people, I’ve seen powerful leaders become emotionally barren. Held together, burned out. Marriages end not for violence, but for chambered neutrality. Dissipated charge. The bright sparks went out.

Yet polarity can be rebuilt.
One step creates it.
Flow returns.
Addiction to busyness dissolves.
Conversation becomes radiant again.

If you sense tension or numbness in your relational life, pause. The charge between you might need rekindling. Begin small, let mutual energy re‑form. Let polarity restore the pulse.

I invite you: sit down with someone you love tonight. Let contrast live. Let care breathe again.

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