The Biggest Lie You’ve Ever Been Told

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One of the most harmful ideas ever woven into society is the belief that it’s better to give than to receive. This single statement has shaped how countless people — especially heart-centered leaders — approach life, business, and success. Over the years, I’ve worked closely with some of the wealthiest and most generous people you could ever meet. These clients and friends have shown me firsthand that wealth and generosity are not opposites. In fact, those who have learned to receive fully are often the ones who give most abundantly.

The myth that financial abundance requires taking from others, or that receiving inherently causes harm, simply isn’t true. I’ve seen far more destructive behavior from those struggling in lack than from those living in abundance. The real difference between those who continually struggle to create margin in their lives and those who thrive comes down to one thing — their relationship with receiving.

The Three Steps to Creating Anything You Want

There’s a simple creation process I teach at my two-day Choose Your Destiny Live Intensive — a process that can be applied to manifest anything you truly desire.

Step One: Clarity of Vision.
Most people never achieve what they want because they haven’t defined it clearly. They’re reacting to life instead of creating it. True clarity comes from going inward, listening deeply to the soul, and crafting a vivid picture of what your ideal life looks and feels like.

Step Two: Certainty of Heart.
Even with a clear vision, many people remain stuck because they doubt their ability to achieve it. Old stories, fears, and inner conflict cloud their belief in what’s possible. To move forward, you must dissolve these internal blocks. That’s why I developed The DRILL Method — a process for dropping into the body, recognizing stored emotions and beliefs, inquiring into their roots, letting them speak, and then letting them go. Each time you do this, you strengthen your certainty that what you desire is truly available to you.

Step Three: Commitment to Receive.
This is where most people stop short. They’ve done the inner work, they’re clear on their vision, but when opportunity comes, they hesitate. They feel guilty for wanting more. They wonder if they’ve earned it. They fear their gain will mean someone else’s loss. Without the willingness to receive fully, desires remain out of reach.

Why Receiving Is Essential

For over-givers, receiving can feel uncomfortable — even unsafe. Many of us were celebrated for selflessness but punished for wanting, asking, or accepting help. This conditioning wires the nervous system to equate giving with virtue and receiving with guilt or shame.

But receiving is not selfish. It’s a vital act that enables greater generosity. When your life is full, your energy overflows. You give from inspiration, not depletion. Without the ability to receive, you operate from scarcity — and scarcity can’t sustain meaningful contribution.

Over the years, I’ve watched clients master this process and watch their circumstances expand rapidly. Meanwhile, I saw my own patterns of self-sabotage — slowing down momentum, bringing success back to a “safe” baseline, and staying in the role of the constant giver. It wasn’t because I was incapable, but because I was resisting the very thing I wanted.

It’s time for all of that to change for me. And it can change for you, too.

Stepping Into Shameless Receiving

When we drop the lie that giving is “better” than receiving, we make space for both to exist in balance. We learn that our wants matter, that our desires are valid, and that asking for and accepting abundance benefits everyone.

This is the work I invite you into — strengthening your receiving muscle, dissolving guilt, and embracing the fullness of life without apology. With clarity of vision, certainty of heart, and a commitment to receive, you step into a life where your capacity for wealth, love, and freedom expands without limit.

Receiving is not the opposite of giving — it is what allows your giving to be sustainable, joyful, and deeply impactful.

Click here to join me at the next Choose Your Destiny Live Intensive and we’ll step into a more enriched life together.

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This post was previously published on Inner Wealth.

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